There’s exciting news for anyone who experiences negative self-talk. As in, everyone.
We all have an inner alarm system built into our neurology. It’s part of what helped Homo Sapiens evolve and thrive. Something bad pops up and our amygdala leaps into action to let us know there’s danger and we need to take action to become safe.
A funny thing happened on the way to that Forum, though. Because now we live in a world where most threats are emotional, psychological, and even imaginal, this system isn’t needed in the same way. As a result, it’s adapted and changed.
“Sometime in your life, you experienced stress, fear, and very likely a sense of powerlessness. It’s completely normal to have this happen especially as a young child. At that time in life, the entire world is bigger than you and there’s a lot you just don’t know. So, if you’ve had more stressful or threatening situations than you had the ability or support to process and resolve, your brain came up with a solution.
It created stories.
These stories were designed to help you to avoid danger and pain. They were created with a child’s point of view and you very quickly outgrew them. Like a snowsuit you put on when were 6 to protect you from the cold, these stories created a cushion between you and the environment. Years later, you’ve grown but that snowsuit is still the same. It doesn’t fit. You’re uncomfortable. And, it’s keeping you from connecting with your life. These stories became your self-criticism.”
The Other Secret
So what’s the secret to eliminating that negative self-talk? Scientists have discovered that the amygdala is also designed to increase our positive emotions as well. One study reported by the Greater Good Science Center described that “while people do automatically attend to negative stimuli, given the proper ability and motivation, they can show the same sensitivity to positive stimuli.” This means that our conscious mind can choose to strengthen and deepen our positive responses to life.
Rather than being hobbled by what has been called our reptilian brain, it seems that we can integrate and activate all regions in order to create a more fulfilling experience of life.
One way to develop your amygdala’s positivity potential is to take a few minutes each day to intentionally focus on the positive. In my article, Epic Formula for Eliminating Your Negative Self-Talk & Self-Criticism I teach you one simple, powerful practice that takes less than 2 minutes each day. Read More>>